Often, couples share with me that they are afraid of going to therapy because the therapist may take sides. In our work together, I do not “side with” a particular partner; rather, I work with you to identify patterns/cycles that are not helpful to the relationship. We work toward creating new ways of interacting and being in relationship that are consistent with your joint preferred vision.
Isupport you in talking to each other in ways that are respectful, meaningful, gentle, and affirming by helping you have conversations that are different than the ones you are having at home. I can help you rekindle, heal, or strengthen your relationship. When you feel stuck or that past hurts will never go away, we work together toward creating safety in our conversations in order to move past these.
Couples come to see me for some of the following challenges:
Feeling disconnected from each other
Conflict, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling
Infidelity and relationship contract breeches
Hurt and resentment
Navigating Polyamory and open relationships
Current or past infidelity
Moving beyond trauma and abuse
Sexuality and sexual challenges
Impact of mental health challenges on relationship