I invite you to be gentle and patient (I know, it’s hard!) with yourselves throughout your process of healing (or whatever word resonates with you). It may feel like you are ok one day one day and then feel like you’ve gone a few steps “backwards” the following day.
Also, I encourage you to be compassionate and patient with your loved ones’ processes. Often times, we tend to wonder what is taking so long for someone to feel better, they should be doing A or B, or if they just could…
Perhaps best thing you can do for those whom you love is to acknowledge their pain and let them know you are there for them (if you feel emotionally capable to do so).
Whether you are experiencing a loss, challenges in your relationship, mental health challenges, questioning your identity, working through trauma, or any other challenge, it is important to remember that everyone’s experience is different and their journey toward feeling better will also look different.
Linear is predictable, consistent, and sequenced. Our society is so good at thinking of things in these terms. Anything that falls outside of this construct can be scary, anxiety provoking, and unfamiliar for some.
So, if this is a challenge for you, maybe ask yourself: What CAN I control in this? What is one small thing I can do to be ok through this? Is it ok for me to not be ok for a moment in time? What do I need when I am not ok? How can I remind myself that ups and downs are part of the journey and who can I count on to support me with this?
As always, I welcome you to contact me if you think I may be of support.